My husband and I aren't really interested in sex with other people, or relationships with other people. However, my husband and I both enjoy affection with other people. Kisses, hugs, holding hands, playing games of an affectionate nature, that kind of thing.

We have often made friends in poly circles, and have had a great time at parties where we can dance with other couples and peoples partners with no jealousy, we can play those silly teenage games, me and another woman can show each other our boobs and see the similarities and differences, we can talk openly about things we like sexually, it's always been a great way to meet people who are very open with these things.

However, recently we were chastised by a friend I just made who is polyam that we were inserting ourselves into a space we don't belong in because we are treating poly people like playthings. I said I didn't agree because we always got consent, and we are good friends to people we meet in these spaces, like spot you a $20, pick you up from an airport, help you move type friends. And we were always upfront that we weren't interested in sex and relationships.

But I have worried that they were right, and I'm taking advantage of people which I would never want to do. Please let me know, if I'm being unethical I will stop, or if there is a way to do this ethically please let me know. And should we not label ourselves as polyamorous?