My boyfriend and I are having trouble. He doesn’t communicate well, usually he tells me about something big as he’s doing it. Like bringing a new partner to meet his family for thanksgiving, or a 5 day road trip to Vegas.. during Christmas..there’s been a couple other things too. Each one I’ve communicated about and he’s apologized..

We haven’t had any one on one time since before October.

He’s had new partners come and go and I always end up put on the back burner. Despite not agreeing to hierarchical relationship.

So I again communicated how I’m feeling and he just sent me weird responses like ‘oh?..’ which felt like manipulation. So I told him that I’ll make solo poly easier for him and take myself out of the picture.

He asked to come over and talk about it on Monday. I agreed. Then the next day he’s telling he about a new untitled relationship with someone else..

I can’t decide if this is disrespectful or acceptable. My polyamorous mother in law says disrespectful so do some of my friends.. many in polyamorous lifestyles.