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Advice please? Transitioning from romance to friendship?
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Advice please?

Iā€™ve been seeing someone (G) for a few months and we are in love [yes, I know itā€™s a short amount of time but my husband and I fell in love within a few dates and weā€™ve been together now for 4 years so itā€™s not impossible].

Unfortunately, G and his other partner (S) are monogamous and will be becoming exclusive soon (timeline TBD, though I did request something more concrete last night if he can get that from conversations with her).

We have always been open and honest with each other. G knew I was polyamorous and thought he would be able to do it too, but he knows now he canā€™t do it longterm. He just doesnā€™t have the emotional bandwidth, and I respect that.

I thought weā€™d have a few years between this and G deciding to go on the path to marriage/kids with someone (either S or someone else)ā€¦ but we donā€™t. G and S talked recently and, without knowing the details, they will be closing up ā€œsoonā€. Basically we have a month or two now.

But G and I had agreed from day 1 that weā€™d stay in each otherā€™s lives. So now itā€™s time to think about platonic friendship. Iā€™ve transitioned to friendship from romantic relationships before - with those I hadnā€™t had much sexual attraction to but whom I loved dearly. This isā€¦ way different.

How can we pull off this transition in the healthiest way possible once the time is up/starting now?

TLDR: how do you healthily transition from full on sexy romantic coupling to platonic friendship with a partner?

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