I started my fitness journey in my mid-late 30s and am now in the best shape I have ever been in. I didn't start going to the gym to loose weight, I actually stay away from too much cardio, but I went for my health, to "tone" up, get stronger and gain muscle instead of just being thin, which I naturally am. I gained muscle pretty fast, and 2 years in of strength training, I can pull a decent amount of weight. I am not bulky, when my arms are straight down next to me you can't see any muscle, but when I flex, you can see my biceps, triceps definition and in my back. My dh, works out, nowhere near the amount I do, but for over a year will continually make comments about my arms. I've been told to just focus on my ass and legs and I should stop working out my arms and to please make sure I don't get man shoulders. I am 125 pds, long arms & legs, with petite shoulders. He's also told me I go too much and only need to go about 2x a week and how I have such a great body I could never go to the gym and still look fine. I guess he just wants me to be completely soft. I work really hard at the gym which he knows, but bc of his fixation with this, should I completely ditch upper body workouts?