Being born and raised in Illinois, storms have been a constant in my life. I'm blessed with knowing the extremes of every season, but the best is still the thunderstorms. There is something that catches the mind when it comes to the sound of battering rain against your home. The fact that part of you wants to hide from the thunder, but the only way to know it's coming is to look out into it and see the flash first. I was never one to stand in the rain, but I would stand out as it rolled in...watching the majesty of the event before retreating inside.

I know, I'm sounding at little overly poetic, but I'm setting scene. I want you to be thinking of that feeling as you read on to what I'm looking for. Because in my life, there is not storm. There has been in the past. Rain has soiled what I cherished, thunder and lighting scared me away from what I have loved, and though at times I could see it rolling it, I didn't have the wherewithal to know how to find refuge. But as I look at my life now...things have changed.

I'm stable. I have financial freedom. I have a job that allows me to work from anywhere. I have skills and behaviors therapy has taught me to practice. I have friends and support structures that invest in me as much as I in them. I have family that knows me, not just the version of me I grew up with. When the storms come now, both literally and metaphorically, I don't have to run for shelter. I can stand under the life I have worked hard to make sturdy, and have faith it will hold.

While that means a lot in my daily life, it reflects in my kink life as well. As a Daddy Dom, it means I strive to be that refuge for my submissive little. Whether she is a brat or broken, I don't fall into the trap of letting her storm phase me. I try and approach everything with patience, understanding, and an abundance of caring.

I'm the guy you brat to, and instead of only spanking you, we talk about what you need in the future to make you happy. Maybe we just need better understanding...and maybe you just like being spanked. But we still talk it out.

I'm the guy you can randomly bite while we're on the couch, and you will hear me grunt and feel me tense, but then you'll feel be pet your hair and kiss your forehead and let you nibble until the intrusive thought passes.

I'm the guy who can be the reminder of what yesterday's version of you set as goal, and help you achieve them even if I get called names and have to endure some pouting. I may even cave, if you do a really good job.

I'm the guy you can wake up in a panic, and know my arms will open up and no matter what nightmare or trauma is haunting you, I can let my steady breathing be a way to bring you back from the brink.

I'm the guy who won't come in a just fix your life, but give you the space to change your own destiny, and be the support you need to make it come true. I want to encourage you to dream...and then find my place in that dream.

I know many subs reading this feel like they are the storm. That the chaos in your life, whether internal or external, is a plague they can't outrun. Just know that for the right person what is running...I'm standing outside, watching your storm rolling in. I have a refuge for you. Bring your all to me, and I can let my all be yours to find sanctuary in.

If I didn't out metaphor you, check out some of my other posts. They have a lot more about me, what I'm looking for, etc. This is just a call into the aether, seeing what rumbling clouds I can hopefully call into my life.