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Last updated: 09/18/2024

bdsmr4r Rules

Last updated: 08/20/2024
• Include your age, tag, #location, and what you're looking for in the title

Please include your age and TAG in your title.
E.g. 22 [f4m], [m4f], [f4f], [m4m], [t4f], [t4m], [m4r], [f4r], [t4r].

Example Title: 22[f4m] #Chicago, Illinois; or #Online. Looking to learn bondage play

Posts without a descriptive title may be removed! See Rule 2 for details on Meetup vs Online posts.

Tagging Legend:

M– Male/Man

F– Female/Woman

MTF– Transwoman/male to female

FTM– Transman/female to male

A– Anyone/Redditor

• Post titles must include #location for meetups, #online for online activities, or both

If you're looking to meet, put your location in the title in the format #City, State/Province (including the comma, and with only one # before the city name). Specifying #State, Country, or just #Country, is also permitted, if you're willing to travel that whole area. Up to two such tags (including the #Online tag) may be specified.

If you're seeking online activities, include the #Online tag in your post title. You may optionally put a #location if you're open to both.

• No exchanges for money, goods, or services

Exchanges for money, goods, or services, are strictly prohibited. This includes. and is not limited to, any of the "sugar" lifestyle ads, offers for free trips, lessons, tutoring, webpage design, gaming, cam performances, etc. If you are doing something in exchange for something else, it will most likely fall in this rule. Contact the mods for clarification or questions.

• No usernames or personal info

No personal information, including but not limited to phone number, email addresses, external profiles, surveys, and forms. This includes usernames for any service, of any kind. You may mention a preferred messaging service in your post, but must not directly ask people to reply with their usernames.

• Don't post more than once a week

Only one post is allowed per 7-day period, no exceptions (other than mod-removed posts). Posts made more frequently than this will be automatically removed. Anyone found to be circumventing this will be permanently banned.

• Any harassment or publicly calling someone a fake/scam will result in a permaban, no exceptions

Reports of fakes/scammers must go ONLY to the mods. Any such claims that are made in posts/comments without evidence will result in a permanent ban for harassment. Please report any harassment, in public or private, so that we can ban the offenders to protect others.

Someone changing their mind, ghosting, or not sending a pic doesn't make them a catphish; please do message the mods if you have actual proof, otherwise block them and move on.

• Don't involve non-consenting people in your play

Always verbally confirm limits and safewords in person before play; online fantasies don't always translate to real-life!

When arranging meetups and play sessions, be mindful of how your actions impact others, including those outside the community. While role-playing scenarios and discussions of fantasies are perfectly fine, you must not actually involve any real-world non-consenting people in activities, or encourage others to do so.

Please report any dangerous activities or "red-flags".

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