** IMPORTANT: Do make sure youāve read all of this before reaching out to me! I appreciate that this is quite a lengthy read, but Iāve put in the time and effort to articulate what Iām looking for to avoid wasting everyoneās time. Youāll get a very full sense of who I am, what Iām looking for and what Iām hoping youāre like. Now please extend the courtesy of at least having read it in full before saying hello. : ) If you canāt make it to the end then I guarantee you will not be able to handle my level of communication. Get a drink, get cosy and letās beginā¦ **
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Hello there! I go by āAmaraā online. Nice to meet you! šš¾
Quick summary of what Iām searching for: Iām looking for an older Dominant gentleman to develop a connection with, shower with affection and attention and to be mentored by.
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What Iām hoping youāre like: - Caucasian - American, Canadian, Australian or East Asian - Ideally around the ages of 38-50~ (soft limit with some wiggle room but my preference is mid to late 40s ā„ļø) - Single (HARD LIMIT. No married guys and no ENMs/Polys. Iām a greedy little gremlin and Iām not looking to share right now! š). - Monogamous with the open mindedness for potentially opening the bedroom up for one-off play sessions. This would be with mutually picked partners but in the waaay off future. - I have a weakness for men with accents. The Californian accent or Southern drawl especially is like an instant boarding pass. - Not overly muscular nor extremely weighty in build. I do like a little bit of a dad bod! - Smaller physical attributes (hair colour, eye colour etc.) donāt really matter to me though I would prefer a little bit of hair. It gives something to grip on to! Not entirely a dealbreaker, however, if there is a great connection.
Iād like to exchange photos pretty early on to make sure thereās a mutual attraction. No hard feelings on either side if the attraction isnāt there. I believe nobody should have to āsettleā and we all deserve to be with someone that we find insatiably desirable.
For now, hereās my description: - 26, 5ā2ā. - Light-skinned, black British female. - Dark brown eyes. - Curly dark brown hair. Both almost look black unless Iām in the sun where the true colour shines through. - 180lbs and declining (thanks to 75Hard!) - Ample bosom and butt (thanks to genetics!). - Ears pierced, no tattoos. - Never married, zero kids.
My personality and what I enjoy:
The Vanilla Stuff - Demisexual, Sapiosexual, Bisexual. - Insomniac so Iām often up at weird hours of the night. - Reading - currently going through Greek mythology start to finish and discovering new mystical erotica writers. - Video games. - Game Development - 3D modelling apparel and environment rigging and animation. - Web Development. Learning front end and back end development to become a Full Stacks Dev on the side.š¤š¾ - VERY Amateur Woodworking. - Slip casting and ceramics. - Woods and forests for strolls and hikes. - And a variety of fibre-arts! - Would love to try my hand at cosplay next year and I already have the perfect outfits in mind! 70s Ororo Munroe (X-Men Storm). That two piece leotard, thigh highs with a cape. chefās kiss ā„ļø And Teen Titans (Original) Rachel Roth (Raven). I guess I have a thing for leotards and capes. š¤·š¾āāļø - I LOVE asking and receiving questions; and, as you can see from this post, I adore lengthy messages so please be inquisitive and talkative! Thereās a lot of conversation starters here and beyond.
The Kinkier Stuff - āØ Brat / Submissive / Accidental Occasional Domme / Middle (DDMG) āØ You donāt have to like all of the same things that I do but having some overlap to talk about would be nice. Hereās a list of some of my interests: - D/s Dynamics - DDMG - Spanking - Choking - Face Slapping - Light Verbal Possessive Degradation - Collars And Gags - Blindfolds And Hoods - Wax Play - Restriction/Pinning/Cuffs/Spreader Bars - Roleplay - Sexting/Photo Exchange - CNC - Rutting - Primal - Forced Orgasm - Shibari ā¦to name a few.
Okay, now that the bullet points are out of the wayā¦ if youāre still here and interested then Iād like to finish up by expressing what Iām looking for in a connection and why.
~ Outside of the bedroom | Iām hoping that whilst youāre dominant in the bedroom, you have a firm, yet softer, persona outside of the bedroom that allows me to be a bit of a ādominant caregiverā.
One of my main ālove languagesā is acts of service and I tend to autonomously ensure everyoneās needs are met. Whether itās making sure youāre fed and your cup is full, keeping up with appointments, upcoming celebrations and gift wrapping to medicine, hot water bottles and head massages when youāre sick.
Now, by no means am I referring to being nothing more than a subservient 1950s housewife stereotype. I do these things as a show of affectionā¦ because I want to, when I want to. NOT out of a sense of obligation and ātraditionā.
Iām headstrong and will speak my mind. Iām the dominant in my own life and have to be to have gotten where I am plus where I want to get to.
So, Iām not looking for anyone who wants a meek, yes-woman who will wait on them hand and footā¦ Iām not looking for someone who wants to ātameā or diminish and pacify the spirit that I have built. But rather I want someone who is looking for their equal.
Someone to gently fan this fire so that we can both be great, together, in our own individual yet harmonious waysā¦ (Unless, of course, weāre roleplaying then by all means let that misogynistic freak flag fly! š)
~ Inside the bedroom | In the bedroom, however, I want you to grab the bull by the horns and put me in my place.
At the end of the day, Iām tired of having to be the strong dominant for everyone else and just want to find someone who will let me melt completely in their open arms. At last being able to relinquish the remaining shred of my control, fully knowing that I am safe.
~ Brattiness | Iām a āplayfulā bratty sub. My form of ādisrespectā is playful teasing and rebellious defiance. I like to gently poke the bear and run away when itās finally riled up. I expect to face the consequences of my actions but that wonāt stop me from batting my big, brown eyes at you and pleading for forgivenessā¦ Which youāll give me because Iām your sweet girlā¦ Sucker. š I like to run until Iām caught, kick until Iām pinned and gently nibble until Iām gagged.
~ Adventurous | My kink list above is by no means exhaustive, with new things being added to it fairly regularly.
Though the list is long, there is still a large part of it that is yet to be physically explored.
Iām looking for a safe, reliable space in which to do that with an experienced, patient dominant who is happy to show me the (sometimes literal) ropes.
Mentor me in the experiences Iāve yet to try and guide me in perfecting the things you enjoy most. I want you to turn me into your personal, custom-made toy.
Iām hoping youāre equally adventurous, wanting to grow and explore new things together.
Toys, outfits, scenes, clubs and hidden gems. Thereās a whole world of fun out there to be explored and Iām willing to bet it would be better shared.
~ Relocating | In regards to long distance and relocating, Iām up for moving to an entirely different country for the right person.
Not at this current point in time but definitely in the future should things progress and remain steady.
My goal has always been to move to either California or Canada so Iāll eventually be in either USA or CA regardless. Iām flexible on where exactly within these countries Iād move to.
But, as an overly ambitious heads-up, should we ever be cohabiting a home together, I fully intend to repurpose a whole room (or basement) into a depraved little playroom, filled with all sorts of devious devices for both to enjoy.
If youāve made it this far then perhaps youāre the person Iāve been looking forā¦
If you think so then Iād love to hear from you.
Send me a message, opening with a little bit about yourself like your age, location, SFW interests/hobbies and NSFW shared interests. Also please include a description or yourself/be prepared to send a selfie.
Letās get to know each other and see where this goes. āŗļø
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- Any āhiā or short/low effort responses will be indicative that you have not properly read this post and WILL be ignored.
- I will also cease responding to those who cannot hold a conversation. AKA talks at length about themselves but regularly does not return questions for the conversation to grow from.
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