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35 [F4M] #Lisbon - Portugal - Dominant cougar looking for someone who is younger than 40 and, also, an attractive (masculine and straight) male sub or a boyish lesbian for an FLR, IRL. Also looking for IRL, like-minded friends!
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volutopia is a female age 35 looking for a male in Lisbon, Portugal
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I have NO interest in online play. I am **NOT** looking for sissies or crossdressers.

Now that I, hopefully, eliminated a lot of unwanted ones, we can actually start!
Hi! I am Juliana and I am looking a sweet sub who is always respectul and classy. Check out what I am looking for in details, if you are also searching for a female led relationship: relationship in which the woman is in charge, in and outside of the bedroom.
I don't answer lazy, generic messages or messages from people I don't know what they look like, so if after reading my ad, you decide to send me a message, make sure it is a well written message: Don't overuse slang or "lol" or use too much emojis. Use punctuation! Know the difference between "your and "you're". I love language and I find it sexy when someone is articulate and writes well.
Attraction is essential and I have to know if you are my type physically, before engaging in a conversation with you and, to be quite blunt, nothing substitutes a cute face for me. I block/ignore way more people than I answer and just because I have answered you, it does not mean you will not get blocked down the road if you disappoint me. If you talk to me without showing your face, you are not respecting my limits since the very beginning and I am not interested. If you do not want to show your face, I am not interested in knowing why you do not want to send a picture or video. If you hide your face, you should talk to women who also hide their face, not with me. I am mostly attracted to White and Asian people.
I am very bossy and I like to tell things like it is, so, don't be a winny little bitch, have some thick skin and preferably, also, tough balls :)
I have a mommy fetish but I don't want to actually be your mom, so be mature, be stable and consistent. Don't dump your fetishes on me, as if you are hiring a service, and do not try to turn the conversation into a sex chat - it will just get you blocked. I am an empowered woman with a lot of experience, so I will not put up with BS :)
Before messaging me, read my post fully and, if you decide to message me, let me know why you think we could be a match in a relationship and what values and hobbies we share. Also include your height and weight in meters/kg. I am from Brazil and a I am a bit of a nomad. On Wednesday I arrive in Lisbon, from Brazil.
I am anti-capitalist, anti-colonialism and anti-imperialism and pro-choice. I am vegan (and you have to be one too or want to become one - and know that it is a requirement of mine). Educate yourself. Learn about speciesim, if you are not familiar with the topic. Being an ethical person is very important to me and I am looking for someone who also makes efforts to be a decent person. That includes, among other things, respecting the animals' lives: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZO04lrg0rs&t=26s.
I am a progressive, a feminist, a nerd who loves being at home watching movies (but who *does not* like Star Wars Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings haha), videos, series (I just finished the last season of What we do in the shadows and I loved it), reading, playing videogames, doing jigsaw puzzles, listening to audiobooks/podcasts, stories, rock/metal (some of my the bands I like are: She Wants Revenge, After Forever, HIM, Volbeat, Skindred etc. Here goes one of my favorite songs of 2023: https://youtu.be/ImLwCP5Pfuo?si=0scdgi7JtJ4d7r9R. It is one hell of a feminist and powerful song!
I love going to concerts, meeting up with friends to play boardgames, watching stand-up comedy, dancing (retro music and bellydance), playing boardgames and being in nature/in the water and swimming.I am interested in sustainability, healthy eating and healthy lifestyle in general. My favorite food is pamonha, second favorite is Green Thai Curry.
An example of an ideal quality time with my sub would be to have him or her gently run their fingers on my back while we listen to some creepy story together. I am a horror fan and have endless reccomendations for people who like horror too haha You have to enjoy creepy stuff too as I listen and/or watch stuff like this everyday and like to do it with a partner when I am in a relationship.Respect is the basis of an FLR and you *always* have to express yourself with ultimate respect towards me, which means, besides kissing the floor I walk on (figuratevely and literally), being a feminist and a supporter of immigrants' rights and a world with no borders! I am looking for something serious that will, hopefully, last a lifetime. Something that will evolve to living together and adopting cats an perhaps a dog and rabbit too :)
If you need to have kids, I am not the right person for you.
The dream would be to live a kinky and loving life, where we grow some organic veggies and flowers together, have cozy moments watching horror movies under the blankets and, are honest at all times with each other and have open communication with one another. I would never lie to my partner and I am looking for someone who also would never lie to me. Lying is betraying and not acceptable on a D/s. I don't believe in words until you show me that your actions back up what you say. I know how common it is to lie and lying is against my principles, I want to find someone who takes honesty serious as I do and it is your job to show me that you are different and better than all the time wasters. I am a very open person and do not want to deal with immature people who are afraid of living. Do not message me if you are not ready to meet a Mistress in real life. If you try to keep the conversation on Reddit only, don't want to talk on Whatsapp or Instagram, I will think you are not serious or, worse: that you might be dangerous. You have to make sure you give me a good feeling that I am spending my time getting to know with a goal be together in real life, and you have to make me feel safe to meet you. If you don't get personal or sound like someone who just wants to live a fantasy in your head, it is likely that I will block you.
I care about physical and mental heatlh. I noticed that in the BDSM community there is a lot of mental health struggle and, if you have any mental issues (which you should informe me in your first message), only message me if you take care of your mind as in seeing a psychiatrist, psycologist, take medication, do whatever therapy that works for you. I am looking for something stable and you have to be stable too, so we can evolve together rather than me being your caregiver. One tip though, look up medicine that our Mother Earth has for our minds - psychedelics - I recently tried ayahuasca, which are plants from the Amazon and I had a positive experience with it, of feeling more compassionate and tolerant. But please keep in mind that if you abuse any drugs, including natural ones, or you self medicate because you do not want to work on your mental issues, I cannot be your Domme. I do not want someone who is high often, nor anyone who smokes anything or is addicted to nicotine, Xanax, alcohol or even coffee (I don't drink alcohol or coffee, so, don't invite me for it haha)... maybe you got the idea.
I know how to keep a place clean and organized, and I expect those qualities from you. I am sadistic and love humiliation but I also am very loving, I give a lot of attention and compliments to my sub. Don't expect praise for regular things or every single thing you do for me but know that I pay attention to everything and appreciate real efforts and dedication. None of these kinks can be among your limits: worship, humiliation and CBT if that applies to your gender, because those are big kinks for me. I have to say I am not really into chubby guys and prefer men around 1,80 or over, who love curvy, petite women.
I am not into brats, switches, people who identify themselves "bulls" or anyone who does not identify themselves as submissive or slave. If you are younger than me and have a mommy fetish, I would be interested in exploring that and I have some taboo fetish but I am not interested in people who like pascifiers, wear diapers and while we are at it, I am also NOT intererested in people who are into breeding, sissification or dressing up like animals. I am possessive so I don't share my subs and I am open for a monogamous relationship or a one-sided monogamous relationship, in my advantage haha - we would have to discuss this to see what works for us but, for the cucks out there, don't come with the BBC, the hookups, the interracial or the bi male stuff: If I cuck someone it will be for my enjoyment, if you like what I like to do, great, but I will not be your object. Inform me on your fist message if you expect monogamy or not.
The following fetishes are **super low** on my interests and could only be part of our D/s as rewards for hard (non sexual) work: bondage, chastity, fetishists clothes and high heels. My style is usually retro and/or formal/stylish. But I do prefer to feed the stray cats rather than buying a lot of clothes :)It is your job to show me that you know that an FLR is what you want. Tell me what you have that I am looking for. Also make sure to include a clear face picture or, better, a video in which I can see your eyes well (I will ask for a video right in the beginning of the conversation anyway). DO NOT SEND ME A MESSAGE IF WE HAVE NO VALUES/HOBBIES IN COMMON and DO NOT send me your list of your sexual fantasies in your first message: this is just gross, coming from strangers on internet and it immediately shows that you have poor social/dating skills.
It is important that, if you are not near me, you inform me that you are able to travel to me regularly and that you can travel soon, and tell me how we could possibly live together one day, because, eventually, I am looking for something that will evolve to a female led marriage. So I will expect relevant questions from a possible candidate and I will expect that we make plans for an immediate future and that we talk about our expectations and logistics of having a life together. I prefer if you contact me if you can meet up in real life in the next couple of months, maximum. Even if that means you refraining yourself from messaging me now and, instead, doing it later on in your life. I do not want to spend too much time only on the internet: I want people who will take me out of the internet :)
If I answer you and state that you are attractive, it is time for you to send me a quick video of you saying something. Make sure to let me see the color of your eyes well on it. If I confirm that you are my type after seeing the video, take the full test on bdsmtest.org and send me the results.
I am open for relocation.This is me: https://imgur.com/a/voloWfA.

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