About Me

You can call me Indigo, or Indi for short. It’s my pseudonym on here as I’m not comfortable giving out my real name. I live in Australia but happy to talk to people from anywhere (timezone GMT 10). Physically, I’m around 175cm, slim, fair skin, straight strawberry blonde hair cut short and green eyes. I’ve got a bit of mild gender dysphoria and I’m currently questioning my sexuality a bit so happy to hear from people of any gender identity. I’m open to talking about both those topics as well if you reach out. I value open communication and authenticity. I’m not looking for anything quick or casual, I’m more interested in a dynamic that can grow over time.

Interests and Hobbies

I love to nap especially on the weekend. I enjoy cooking and trying new cuisines and recipes. I also enjoy relaxing at the beach, nature walks and catching up with friends. (Please excuse how cliché that last sentence sounds). I love to travel and did a fair bit pre-Covid.

Mental Health

I have struggled with depression and anxiety, although I’m in a pretty good place right now. I know how to manage my mental health although I’d be still looking to connect with people who are sympathetic to this.

Kink

I’m a switch although I strongly lean sub. I have been a Dom in the past but it’s not often I find a connection that works for me in that role. For me, submission means having a level of trust in someone that I can willingly let go of control for a period of time and enjoy the freedom that comes from that loss of control. In the past I’ve mostly been doing online play, including self-spanking, light self-bondage, orgasm control and denial, name calling and degradation, which is something I’m really into. I’ve done a bit of pet play and also had a long term partner with a jeans/denim fetish that I have a lingering interest in. I’ve done some light anal but wouldn’t want to go too much further with that. I like the idea of latex and encasement although I haven’t experimented with it much either. I will not under any circumstances engage in anything illegal, involving blood, scat, friends or family, body modification, knife play, breath play or ddlg. I’m not interested in blackmail, exhibitionism or being exposed publicly. I want to keep this private. My favourite aftercare is words of affirmation, chatting casually and being told I did a good job.

Turn-offs

Pushiness and rudeness are qualities that never fail to rub me the wrong way. If trust is developed I’ll happily have you call me disgusting names but anyone who starts with that stuff gives me a lot of red flags. Also, I do not wish to receive any unsolicited pictures at any point.

Career

I work in humanitarian aid, and I love the work I do. It gives me a great sense of purpose and I’m not looking for a potential dynamic to impact on it in anyway, especially negatively. I work full-time but I’m happy to respond during those hours. Any play or sessions though would need to be outside work hours.

Relationship History

I’ve been lucky enough to be part of a few wonderful dynamics over the last decade, mostly online, which if done well can still be rich and fulfilling for me. I don’t dwell on the past even though I have had a few regrettable dynamics where in retrospect I was used (not in a fun way) and probably even suffered a bit of emotional abuse. I’m working through it but it means I’m likely a little more guarded than most.

What I’m looking For

Full disclosure, I’m simply looking for a genuine kinky connection right now. I don’t know exactly what form that takes right now. The idea of a kinky chat partner appeals because it’s feels manageable and low-risk. I am looking for someone in the 25 age range. Pictures/videos would initially be at my discretion at least until we’ve really developed something more. I do want to develop trust, but it’s a process that is guided by my intuition, so it simply doesn’t have a quantifiable timeframe. I don’t use other messaging platforms for this stuff right now so I’m looking just to chat here.

If you message me please include some information about yourself including your age and any other details you think I should know as well as what you’re looking for. Also if you are thinking of reaching out, please take the time to read my post. I know it’s long but it could save us both time in the long run! I’m happy to answer any questions or topics I haven’t already covered here.

If I sound like someone you’d like to get to know, I’d love to hear from you, Indi x