So I recently requested a restraining order against my ex girlfriend. We dated back in 2019-2020 and we didn’t speak for a year before she weaseled her way back into my life. Maybe I was naive , maybe I just wanted a friend , maybe I trust too much who knows. We became friends and it was well, until she started treating me , speaking to me , yelling at me , and getting mad at me about things like me hanging out w a mutual friend without her and I started to distance myself cause I saw the pattern beginning again. When we dated it was such a vicious cycle of abuse. Physical , Mental, Emotional , and I’ve come to realize even sexual. She is a master manipulator and she was always aware of my mental status because I have battled depression, anxiety , and suicidal thoughts for a long time and she made me think she was the best I’ll ever have, and I believed it because of how little I thought of myself. Fast forward to now after we stopped being friends , she didn’t let things end on a fair note and she did what she did in the past and got a bunch of her friends to message me with threats. She has threatened to kill me before , to send people to my house, she has made comments that imply she has people checking on my home , and constantly says ANYTHING she can think of or procure to hurt me. To hurt the image I try to build for myself of being strong , independent , and hard working. She has insulted my family , friends, and even goes as far as stalking and lurking all my social media accounts despite every attempt to block the accounts I know are her.

I was not granted the restraining order , and the hearing for it is on the 5th. I would like to ask anyone who has gone through something similar or dealt w trying to get a restraining order if there’s anything you suggest I bring / find / use for the hearing because I want to make sure I utilize any and every possible thing to help my case. She is dangerous but she is pretty and I have seen it too many times than I care to admit , her do something awful , and she just bats her eyes and everyone believes she could never do harm. But I know the real her and I just want her to stay away from me. If anyone could help guide me a little bit it would be so fuckin helpful