We’re (F26 M29) very new to The Lifestyle, like never played with anyone before. We saw reviews on here and had been gearing up to trying, so we decided to go to Newcomers Night (Apr 22).

At the door, we arrived with another group and was greeted by the owner Matt, who is lovely and so welcoming. He gave us a rundown about the club and The Lifestyle. Inside is a bar with some tables and a few couches we grabbed a drink which was very reasonably priced and nabbed a table. We sort of looked around like deer in headlights for a bit.

At this point it was around 9.30 and The Mistress (Matt’s partner) took all the newcomers on a tour. Firstly, showed the locker/change room and then we headed up stairs. There are 3 public rooms with two queens sized beds in each and a couch. There is also the sex swing room which can be closed and a room with a massage table in it. The Mistress told us about the rules (No drinks upstairs and the requirement to dress down when going up, mainly).

We headed back down stairs and resumed our deer positions, until I decided we needed to speak to someone. We spoke two couples, it was really lovely to just chat and get to know some other people in The Lifestyle, it felt really safe and easy going.

We decided at this point the night was getting late and we wanted to at least play with each other.

After we came back down and had a drink to catch our breath, we went back up again and started playing when the second couple we spoke to found us and asked to join. They knew it was our first time and were very active about making sure we were both okay with everything they wanted to do. It was a very positive first experience and they made it easy.

We had such a positive experience we decided to go back the next night which was Matt’s Birthday.

We’d love to hear experiences others have had at Between Friends or other venues.