Heyo. I've been well aware of my interest in the kink scene for a long time - recently logged into fetlife after some time and saw my profile was made over 10 years ago!

I never really had the confidence to go out to a swingers/kink event but have really grown a lot his past year and have been dating/exploring/putting myself out there.

I went to Shed 16 on tuesday night with a mate and it was rather fascinating! The bar staff and security were lovely and frequently checked-in with me throughout the night.

However, as a queer (afab) and femme presenting person, I felt it was such a hetero environment in a sense? There were a LOT of dudes just sort of awkwardly standing around. The people I did have conversations with (regulars) seemed really chill and cool.

Something I've been frustrated/struggling with is that just because I'm short, female, cute, people expect me to bottom and be submissive when that's not the case at all!

I suppose I'm wondering if anyone has recommendations for more queer friendly events/scenes. I was told that wet on wellington has a queer night, so I'll probably check that out at some point too.

Thanks!