so I've been continuing to go to Wet most weeks with the bi guy in tow...

our game is sex with bi guys in the open spaces at Wet, not in private rooms

for us Thursday night is exactly the vibe we're looking for... sure straight guys ask if they can join in, we say no if they won't play with both of us and move on with our night

but for the most part we're either getting watched in silence by guys too scared to ask to join... or playing with guys brave enough to say hello

we really enjoy being watched, that's why we don't go to the spaces with doors, so for us that part isn't creepy... and I think to be fair to those watching playing in a public space at Wet is an invitation to watch and be sexually aroused by what you see, there are spaces with doors for those who don't want to be watched.

last night in particular was thought was a little quiet, but for us the number of people in the venue is irrelevant if there are a few bi guys with the attitude that matches ours... and so we had one of the craziest bi guy piles we've had in ages... 9 guys came through and got consent to join the game in the time we were there and just enjoyed the queerness of it all

for the guys watching these boards wanting to know how to get in on the fun at these venues I'd say using words is the go and watching for your timing... last night of the 12 guys we played with the lines varied so much, and they all lead to a yes "can I join in?" "can I touch you too?" "it's quiet tonight hey?" "how bad is that porn?" "hi, what's your name?"

things that didn't work for some of the other guys touching my leg from between guys I was playing with (its a gay guy sauna way to ask consent that doesn't translate to Thursday nights) "can I join in too?" when there were already 3 guys touching me "can I touch her?" directed at my guy while he was licking my cunt

we take the approach of removing a hand that reaches out to touch me, then my guy says "you need to ask to join in" followed up with "this is your cue to ask" if the guy has shown some kind "whoops" about not asking in the first place... and quite frankly the unsuccessful guys are so far removed from what's acceptable that they can't even take that line as an invitation to ask...

to those who want to play publicly but worry about the watchers, just be ready with a strong no, or a line that suits you and jump on board with educating the group who don't get it... or be vocal about why you invite someone to join in and what they did right to get your attention

may those of you who are curious find the brave to turn up and sit naked in the spa for 10 minutes just once in your life... or end up on my side of the bi guy pile and living your best sex life