My partner (F31) and I (M27) are looking for advice on how to subtly, yet clearly, let certain friends know we're open to playing—without flat-out saying, "We're swingers and want to hook up with you." We're selective about who we approach and don't want the news spreading among all our friends. We're looking to gauge specific friends' interest discreetly.

We’ve tried hinting that we’re comfortable with more open experiences, but it hasn’t quite landed as intended. We want to avoid any awkwardness or creating pressure in our friendships, aiming for the conversation or vibe to flow naturally throughout the night.

Has anyone had success signaling interest to friends without being too direct or making things uncomfortable? We'd love to hear how you’ve managed this, keeping it casual and avoiding any strain on friendships.