My wife and I 45M.and 42F are heading down to Melbourne this weekend and will be attending Shed couples night and BFWB nude karaoke on Fri and Sat respectively. We have been going to larger events and these venues around Melbourne for about 4 months and have only played with ourselves and parallel play. We have discussed going further in detail but my wife is quite self conscious and I am not an overly confident person so probably not ready for a full swap, although she is ok for me to do anything. Soft swap is more realistic for us being quite new but to be honest we just suck at mingling. I think we are good people, but we are just quiet and useless at this type of thing haha. Nerves and awkwardness get us, and we haven't been with anyone else since meeting each other 25 years ago lol which makes it more anxiety provoking. Everyone seems so confident at these places and events. Anyway we will see if we get better as time goes on and maybe this week we have an opportunity to go a little further with some awesome people than in previous week's. Let us know if you'll be attending any of the events this week. It should be fun irrespective of what happens.