I see a lot of MF seeking F on here. I’m a bit old and grumpy these days to wear a unicorn crown. But I have sparkled as a unicorn before and wondered if you seekers were interested in what used to appeal to me? I know, not all unicorns are the same. And I’m sure some folks will disagree with my advice here because everyone is unique.

What led me to date a couple 1. I found them both attractive. (This is tricky as I usually like women much more than men) 2. I liked their communication style- not just with me but they checked in with each other a lot too. 3. I knew they were experienced with threesomes 4. They were courteous and kind hosts (good food, wine and entertainment)

I didn’t date couples when 1. I only liked one of them 2. It seemed like one of the couple wasn’t as keen on me as the other was 3. They didn’t talk much - even amongst themselves 4. They spoke about political or social views that I didn’t share.

How did I meet couples?

Often, I’d meet them when I was out with my partner. Swinging parties, kink meetups and social munches. We are very open to playing separately so if we met fabulous people in the wild, we’d follow up those connections later if we felt like it. I’ve dated couples I’ve known for ages from the swinger or kink community, and some that were new to me.

I also met couples on dating apps. OKCupid was the one in vogue a few years back and people could clearly indicate they were open.

I got “catfished” a few times where it seemed like a woman wanted to date me yet her and her husband would turn up to the meetup. That really annoyed me. If they’d only been honest from the beginning! Don’t do that.

Best dates

I think the best dates were when I felt special, like a guest “star” in their relationship. The dates where I felt cherished and appreciated.

I had a spectacular date once in a luxury hotel and the couple were excited to show me the glorious pool, and rooftop garden. We were like kids playing in a palace.

Another date was an imaginative role play with people I knew well. We began the role play beforehand with messaging and setting intentions all while in character.

Yes, unicorns exist. They are out there. But you have to offer them good times, lots of appreciation and playfulness. I suggest you explain more fully in your “wanted” ads exactly how much you do offer (what’s in it for me? Or WIIFM?) There sure are a lot of couples seeking out there. What makes you different?