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First timer looking for tips and advice (F)
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celesteslyx is in Melbourne, Australia
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Hey everyone, my husband has recently told me to express myself more and find some girlies to meet for fun because I miss it from my early 20’s. I’m 28 and comfortably bisexual.

I’m interested in meeting in an event setting and getting a feel for what it’s all about but I have no idea where to start, there seems to be so many events/locations. I’m not much of a party person, I’m anxious in club settings. Does anyone have suggestions for relaxed environments to test out?

I have sexual trauma from my past that I’ve worked hard on and I’m worried about going to events where I might be mistreated or pushed to act.

Thankyou 🩷

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I think ladylike at Wet on Wellington (as another person suggested) or even between friends wine bar might suit you. In addition, to give yourself the best chance of having a good time and not be pressured into anything, it may be worth finding someone/a handful of people you can attend these events with to support you in a way you see fit. It's daunting enough without sexual trauma going into these spaces for the first time so having people there you know already will help.

My partner and I have often met first timers before events for drinks/tapas at a bar close by to answer questions and just to walk people in as a group - with absolutely no expectations of play at all. People say this helps a lot with nerves. Maybe getting someone/people who you trust to do this with you may help. If it's between friends we'd (M/F, 23/23) be happy to do this for you OP. Good luck!

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