Please forgive me with this post this is the first time ever posting so if I ramble on I apologise.

About us: Me M44 & straight average build 92kgs and my wife F43 & bisexual average build, we used to be swingers for about 13 years but that was 10 years or so ago and a lot has happened in this time.

We have been together for 27 years and married for 24, we have recently been discussing with each other about the possibility of us actually being polygamous all this time and not realising it.

My wife has been the one to bring up the topic of having a girlfriend as we recently watched the reality tv show “Couple to Throuple.” and we were both blown away on how we didn’t realise that we were actually polyamorous all this time and that’s where my wife really started leaning towards the idea of having a girlfriend. While watching the show we both really gravitated to one of the couple’s “Corey and Wilder” and that’s where it all started back up for us.

We've contemplated reentering the social scene multiple times, and one option we're considering is attending a Shed16 event to see how things are nowadays. Given our age and our respective medical conditions—my wife has cardiomyopathy and AFIB, while I have fibromyalgia and recently underwent weight loss surgery, resulting in excess skin—we're both eager to connect with others but feel apprehensive due to our health challenges. Personally, having shed 80kgs, I struggle with self-image and wonder if others would find me attractive or appealing.

I guess we are a little self conscious about all of it and we are unsure if anyone would even want to bother with us, so this is where we have decided to post this firstly to get some advice and feedback .

We aren’t looking just for sex either, we want to find someone that fits with us and that we also complement them as much as they complement us.

We're sharing our story seeking advice and support, hoping to navigate this new chapter with confidence. Your input and guidance are greatly appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond.