Good evening, fellow redditors! Sharing another review with you all, our first visit to Krave; hosted by NSFW Events.

Between u/LushMartini's love for nightclubs/raves and our combined love for sex parties, we were excited to tick off a unique sexual bucket list experience - our first raving sex party. With outfits hired (for anyone who was there, I was the tall guy with the sparkliest, silver hat) and manbag full of gear (condoms, lube, vibrators, check) we were on our way to South Melbourne.

We arrived at Club Pandora, the venue that NSFW events had hired for the night. We declined the offer of photos (more on that later), picked up a small courtesy bag each (also more on this later) and headed inside. I won't spend much time on the layout, because I suspect it's likely to change but roughly:

• Downstairs. A bar, VIP area (small) and smattering of BDSM/swing/chair equipment. Pretty quiet, not the focus of the night
• Upstairs. A pumping, laser & smoke filled dance floor with bars and curtained off play areas. The obvious place to be.
• The upstairs mezzanine. A curious little alcove that turned into the primary play area.

Immediately we sensed a great crowd - it takes a certain type of fun, progressive & extroverted person to dance in front of a crowd of strangers (and those people aren't the Wanye's and Dazza's gentlemen that focus on places like Shed 16 or Between Friends) and there was a strong commitment to the party theme and design. Much dancing, jumping, smiling, laughing. If you've never been clubbing before - though that's unlikely if you're already on this subreddit - I would encourage you to give it a go! No prior dance moves required, it's simply a great time. Some people are naked, most people are barely clothed. It's sweaty, it's sexy, it's electric.

As we met old flames and new sparks however, the problem arose that there wasn't really anywhere to connect. Each of the spaces off the main dance area were designated to be play areas, which isn't ideal for beginning a conversation with someone... And in any case, the play spaces were too close to the party and therefore too loud, meaning you

• Couldn't converse in the first place
• Couldn't have a break/respite if you needed one

What this meant was you were stuck in this unfortunate limbo of being attracted to someone, and wanting things to progress things along - but being unable to get past the shouted, terse pleasantries of club talk. At one point (bless her lovely heart) a friend who I hadn't seen in a while shouted to me on the dancefloor

SO HOW HAVE YOOUU BEEEN

- WWHAAATTT?

I SSAAAAID, HOWWW. HAVVEE. YOOUUU. BEEEEEN

More importantly, it put you in the interesting (and slightly concerning) position whereby you receive no verbal feedback from your partner. There was, pounding u/LushMartini into the (very narrow) couches upstairs. Was any of it sore for her, did she need me to slow down? Who knows! Because we know each other well, it was a primal, hot fuck session. But there's no way I'd play with anyone new in that kind of environment.

And since we're still talking about the play spaces. Though you're handed a small bag of gear at the start of the night, it's definitely not enough. Not to mention that no one really has any way of carrying it around, it's not as if you're wearing jeans... With no towels, bins (or anything, really) provided in the play spaces, you're at a loss to 'leave the place better than you found it'.

Lastly, I said I'd talk more about the photos. Photography at RedHotPie sponsored events is already a touchy subject, with Virtue & Vice being burned for taking photos of explicit play sessions through glass without consent... the website promises that if you feature in a photo, it'll be up front and personal - you won't be in someone's background and express consent will be obtained. Well, there was the photographer, up next to the DJ taking sweeping pans of the crowd; we had the wherewithal to turn our faces during these times, but it's another raised eyebrow against the privacy ethics of RHP.

Not to be deterred though, I did achieve some unique life highlights during the night:

• Made out with a number of people - in the middle of a crowded dance floor
• Picked up a woman and held her with one arm, fingered her with the other - in the middle of a crowded dance floor
• Had a woman give me a blowjob - in the middle of a crowded dance floor

But mostly, the night was about u/LushMartini and I experiencing our first nightclub together - because this was mostly a nightclub event with a little bit of sex, not a sex party with a little bit of nightclub. We went home and had more great sex. Then woke up and had even more great sex. Overall, we had a good time.

Would I recommend others to go? Definitely. Would I go again? Yes, if there are changes made to the next one. In the unlikely event that this post is seen by the organisers, I'd love to see

• A venue with better respite/conversation areas
• Play spaces with more space (not necessarily 'bigger', but things like beds or mats, not narrow couches)
• Better 'facilities' (bins, lube, condoms, wipes, towels, etc) in play spaces
• No roaming photographers

(And if they do see this, thanks for creating such a great crowd/community. That's the hardest piece of the puzzle to solve, and if you've got that building block we're excited for more!)

Thanks for reading, and merry playing :)