Bit of a long shot but I'm not sure where else I should be looking.
Also new to posting on reddit (the account's been around awhile for...other purposes...we all know) so if I'm done something wrong please let me know and I'll alter it.

I am one half of an ENM MF couple. It's early days but we're looking to play both solo and together.

I (M35) am seeking F who are into any of the various activities in the 'size queen' sort of space: Bigger toys (BD or otherwise), other bigger objects, fisting etc. New and curious or experienced doesn't matter, just looking for like minded individuals to explore this at a pace that everyone's comfortable with.

I've been looking around and it's hard to find a place that this seems to be the focus. Fetlife is hit and miss with the interest groups, other apps/sites don't allow filtering based on kink. If you know where I should be looking please point me in that direction.

I have a Fetlife and Feeld profile if you'd like to suss me out on there. Please PM for the link, I'd rather not throw it up publicly for every man and his dog.

Looking to take things carefully both getting to and in the bedroom. Would like to meet in public first to check the vibe. Informed and enthusiastic consent and connection is important, if there's a spark I would be open to it being ongoing with the caveat that my partner and I are hierarchical ENM - that is, she's my primary romantic partner and always comes first, not looking to enter into polyamory or another fully fledged romantic relationship.

A bit about me: I'm sex positive, kink friendly. Mild-moderate dom tendencies, milder sub tendencies with the right person. The play itself doesn't have to have a D/s dynamic, it can just be about exploring the kink itself and enjoying the act together. Happy to discuss what other kinks you're into or want to bring to the table. Fairly open minded, happy to discuss limits and details via PM.
Non-sex wise I'm pretty relaxed and usually fairly jokey and playful. Professionally employed. Hobbies include reading, games, lifting, doting over my dog.

I'm 5'10, 88kg. I'm no chiseled adonis but I eat sensibly and work out most days, with good lighting I'm not bad looking XD Starting to pack on a bit of muscle which is nice. Brown hair, brown eyes, facial hair.