Our fantasy is four way same room play, or alternatively FFM or MMF. However, due to wife's narrow standards, anything other than FFM is almost impossible and we are both getting bored of the same thing.

Her requirements for the him, must be white caucasian (but not Greek, Turkish, middle eastern etc), no bogans, clean shaven and no beards, slim athletic body, not overly hairy, not short, and be over 40 but not look it.

Out of the few couples that fit the description on rhp that we end up meeting she turns down because of some other fault or to her he looks worse in person, creating an awkward situation.

It seems that MFMF and MFM swinging is only possible if physical attraction is not overly important for the female counterpart.

My theory is that there are two types of women. Women that forsake physical attraction in men for other traits (the most common type). And women for whom physical attraction is a non-negotiable, he must possess certain attributes first before she explores his other non-physical traits like charisma, money (these women are less common, if they were common the human race would have died out).

So if like me, you are married to this less common type obsessed with the physical, I am afraid couple on couple swinging is near impossible.

Interested in others thoughts.

BTW if you think you have these attributes, we'll don't be afraid to DM me.