Well, we arrived at 8:30 to be greeted by Matt and given the run down. There’s many reviews here that detail the rules and layout etc. it’s definitely worth searching for and reading those, but I’m happy to share what we thought.

I (M41) and my partner (f32) have been to both Wet on a Monday and Bay City. The vibe at BF is definitely more about chatting with other couples and befriending them. Wet feels like a more generalised sex party by comparison.

Bar selection is excellent and staff are knowledgeable and attentive. Also very sociable and wary of welcoming newbies. It is up to each couple though to make connections, and that seems imperative to establishing group play. At Wet I felt you could more easily join a scene.

My partner didn’t find any of the men attractive enough to pursue last night, but we enjoyed talking with couples who were also dipping their toes in. Because it’s a wine bar, rather than a pool party or sex club specifically, it seems to imply a standard of dress and demeanour that is lower at the other places.

Like many things in life, it is what you make it. Some couples looked like they were having a great time and seemed at home there. We were made to feel welcome and weren’t ever pressured or felt awkward, but you can’t control who is there the same night you are, so my fantasies/hopes for the night weren’t met because of that. That’s on me. We’ll go again, knowing it’s a lottery, and at worst, I’ll give my partner a good long massage and several orgasms in a fun environment.

Happy to answer any specific q’s.