The Wet swingers party tends to be one of the consistently better events in Melbourne. Admittedly, a Monday night is shit for people who have jobs that they have to attend on Tuesday morning, but it's only once a month and it's often worth attending.

What kind of Food/Drink os Available?

Don't expect to eat there, and drinks are usually served in plastic tableware (for obvious safety reasons in a venue where people walk around without shoes), so the focus isn't on the food or drink. The being said, Wet is a short walk from Smith Street where there's heaps of dinner options before doors open at 8pm. We always see people we know who attend Wet out and about for dinner and drinks ahed of time. The Fitzroy Beer garden often has a group of people regulars who meet up ahead of the Wet party, and many end up going after some drinks and socialising.

How Many and What kind of People Attend?

A broad section of demographics attend - all nationalities, ages groups, sexual orientations and body sizes. I've always liked that it's felt like a welcoming environment, generally speaking. Often there will be groups of people who know each other - notably the downstairs pool usually has a party vibe later into the night, and the spa is a group favourite.

What to do as a First Timer to the Wet:

We'd suggest spending some time, once you've changed, downstairs with a drink, doing some people watching, starting up a chat with people, and enjoying the sauna and steam room (the steam room gets some light action and can be a good way to be around people having sex in front of you for the first time, if you're not used to it). Then once you've gotten your bearings, head upstairs (there's a main staircase and a back stair case) which leads you into what seems like a maze of dark corridors with small rooms, eventually leading to differnt kinds group rooms, a porn cinema, glory holes, etc. It's fun to explore and you can 100% walk around, take in the sights and sounds (and sometimes smells) without any pressure to join in.

To play or not to play?

There's no pressure to do anything, although you may get propositioned. Learn to be confident in saying "no thank you" with a friendly smile; swingers usually appreciate clear, honest communication, so don't worry about offending. It's not unusual for couples to want to be in the environment, to see and be seen while playing with each other but not to want to interact. Happens most of the time. And for a swinger, it's a terrible feeling realise that someone is playing because they felt guilted into doing something.

If you are interested in joining in and you've not been asked, simply use your common sense about when is a good time to ask, and then ask gently and quietly for consent, e.g. "may I touch you?" , "can we join in?", etc. If it's all a bit overwhelming, you can find a room and lock yourselves away together and enjoy each other while the sounds of people playing all around you fires you on.

Hot Tips:

• smile and chat when possible
• consent is a must for any interactions and verbal consent is best
• keep an eye out for guys with green wrist bands, they're attending without partners and have paid upwards of $300 to attend
• Keep an eye out for the tighter and darker corridors as guys will sometimes clump up there
• when in a tight corridor as a couple or woman alone, invite men to pass you by first, as some creeps like to put their back against the wall to let you pass with the intention of feeling your body press abasing them as you do.
• If at any point you feel uncomfortable, say something, e.g. "could you please take a step back", or, "please don't touch me", etc. the employees of the facility do not tolerate bad behaviour and will kick people out - but more importantly, other swingers won't stand for it either, so if you do speak out, the other patrons will look to ensure you're okay and come to your aid if someone is being treated poorly.
• know what you and your partner are comfortable with and what not -promise each other that no matter what happens, if one of you speaks up, you'll both stop whatever is happening and go back downstairs to chat and regroup.

Lastly, check out the club guide:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Melbourneswingers/wiki/clubs/#wiki_wet_on_wellington_-_swinger.27s_pool_party