For context, I have been with my fiancé, let’s call him Jake, for 5 years, engaged for 2.

My best friend and I have been friends since ninth grade (over 15 years). We lived together all through university, and are still pretty inseparable. She has been with her boyfriend, let’s call him Brad, for over 8 years. Since we lived together for the first few years of their relationship, I am pretty close with Brad too because he was part of our “crew” in university.

It has always been strictly platonic between us, but we are comfortable simply because our favourite person happens to be the same person lol. I‘ve never looked at him as more than my best friends boyfriend, and I know he hasn’t seen me in any other way either.

A few years ago Brad got me a charm for my Pandora bracelet for Christmas, and Jake got really butt hurt about it. He said that it was an inappropriate gift, he shouldn’t be spending “that kind of money” (lol it was a 40 dollar charm and Brad is a successful realtor so he isn’t hurting for money). I told him it wasn’t like that, that we are good friends, and that it’s a thoughtful gift. Jake was bent out of shape but he got over it.

We did our gift exchange yesterday and Brad got me 2 video games that he has been telling me about and wants me to play. He is a gamer and I enjoy video games too. These games aren’t brand new or anything, and one is on ps3 that he bought used for probably like $20 max. Well my fiancé is up in arms about it, saying that it’s really weird that Brad always gets me such specific gifts, and he doesn’t trust Brad’s intentions. LOL. WHAT??

I’m not engaging in this argument with him, because I don’t see anything wrong with the gifts Brad got me. I know there is nothing going on between us, and I don’t see gifted video games as a big deal. My fiancé is 34 years old, and the rest of us are in our late 20’s. I don’t understand why he is so immature and threatened by Brad. I should add that my fiancé never gets a gift for my best friend, even though she always gets one for him. I usually end up putting one of the gifts I got her from Jake or from both of us, so he doesn’t look like such an asshole. I just can’t figure out his angle with all of this shit, but it’s really starting to get to me.