This is a long one and I'm on mobile.

Back story: long term issues with SO(25m). I'm(24f) consistently providing the income into the house, but also doing 90% of all household chores, including your stereotypical "man chores"( mow lawn, fix broken washing machine, etc.), while SO plays on Xbox all day. I work full time consult work, and go to school full time, and SO's only extreme responsibility at the moment is driving me to work as I've been unable to get my license due to medical circumstances.

Actual Steps: I'm a teacher so I've been off of work during holiday break, and desperately trying to get all of the things that I normally don't have the time/energy to do done before I go back on the 2nd. Before Christmas SO was playing Xbox all day while I was doing these things and complaining that he just wanted me to stop and snuggle with him. So I did, don't get me wrong I love him a lot but have a lot of issues with how things have been going. Christmas rolls around, and we do our normal routine of we don't get each other gifts, but we spilt going out to a meal, drinks, apps, the whole 9, and spending an evening in a hotel. We had a fantastic time, and during our evening he mentioned that I've seemed very distant and he is worried. Now we've had this conversation before, and I didn't want to ruin our evening so I just tried to push it off, but he was persistent in trying to figure out what was wrong. So I told him, every thing that has been building up for the last 3 months, and he listened, I have no idea how it happened, how I worded it different, or what but he listened. We agreed to sit down weekly and just talk about what's going on with us, and how things are going. When we got home he was helpful, to the point of telling me to go take a bath and drink a glass of wine, he would take care of supper and finish painting the spare room/my office. To me waking up this morning (9am) to breakfast from my favorite place, and the laundry I planned on doing already in the dryer. I know that there is the possibility he's feeling me getting ready to leave and trying to lull me back into a sense of comfort and I'm on the lookout for that but it just feels like such a big step because he has never shown that he understands where I'm coming from before.