Long story short. I have a hard time connecting with women because I just want the sex. Sex workers are awesome but they are expensive and transactional sex does not fulfill me nor does it solve anything.

I think a lot of non incels who give the advice that sex workers and masturbation will solve the urges but it does because if you have not achieved mutual intimacy, you didn't solve anything.

So when I try to date women, I have a hard time because I don't really care who they are I just want the sex but more women, rightfully so, are turned off by up front FWB request a especially if you show zero interest beyond the sex. But I can't bring myself to care about her long enough to want to know her beyond sex and intimacy.