Here a question I recieve pretty regularly:

Hello Lana in your experience what are some tips and tricks to finding a good bull and how would go about doing it especially if you have never done it before?

It is very important to have a positive first experience to build on for the future. If your first experience is not that great, or even worse than that, it might completely derail your plans and might turn you off from trying this again.

To improve your chances to have a first good experience you need to find that rare combination of someone you're, the wife/gf, sexualy attracted to, someone who is mature and who has experience.

I cannot overstate the importance of prior experience. My worst encounters, by far, were with inexperienced guys, so I mostly avoid them now.

To find experienced bulls in your area, I suggest signing on to a lifestyle oriented platforms such as 3fun (app), Fetlife and maybe a swingers dating website (you might want to Google options).

It is up to you to find a guy you are attracted to. Everyone has a different preference. However, screen for experience... swingers websites often incorporate validations which makes screening for experience easier, but if you use other apps, just ask "do you have experience with something like this"? Some guys exaggerate so be careful, but if they communicate in a mature way and established mutual interest, ask meet them, as a couple, for drinks in a neutral location. It's should be communicated upfront that this is just for drinks to see how you click in person. Guys who are experienced have no problem with this.

When meeting for drinks, if you feel a connection and attraction, there nothing stopping you from inviting them over to your place or a hotel room. If there nothing there, you just finish your drinks and go home. No point at forccing something if there no connection and attraction.

I typically prefer to host because I am more comfortable in my environment, but this is just my personal preference.

When meeting for drinks, keep the conversation light. It is a little awkward at first so it's OK acknowledging this, but a guy who has done it before and worth your while would be easy to talk to and engaging. If they are not, I suggest not going through with it.

Few general tips:

1. Stay away from guys who sext too much, they are all bark and no bite
2. Stay away from guys who ask for pictures all the time. I personally exchange few body pics to establish mutual interest, but it has to be pic for pic and no more than 3 or 4. There lot of pic collectors out there who get off on that.
3. Stay away from guys who can meet only at strange times and who categorically unable to host. Most likely they are cheating on their wife/gf. You don't need that drama.
4. If you find someone you vibe with, arrange for meeting them for drinks sooner, rather than later. Worthwhile guys do not stay single for long and they have options... my rule of thumb is that if we don't get together in a span of few days after we started talking, it is not likely to happen
5. Establish your boundaries, likes and dislikes upfront. Guys with experience expect this and might even ask you. Keep it simple, however. No need making a huge list. I typically say: "I don't care for anal or facials, preffer assertive guys who are groomed and trimmed. You must be ok with my husband being around and taking faceless pics/clips". Of course, you should make your own boundaries.

Hope this helps