This sub is primarily filled with success stories and glamorization of the positive outcomes of hotwifing.

Just a friendly reminder that it can be hard at times. It takes work, it takes dealing with unexpected emotions in a mature and thoughtful way, it takes communication and reassurance from both partners, it takes patience and not overreacting in the heat of the moment.

I dealt with an unexpected, albeit temporary, shock to the system a few weeks ago when my wife played with a friend of ours.

This guy has been around for about a year, she’s played with him 3-4 times with boundaries progressing a little each time. (i.e. - make out in the car, oral/hands, then finally sex). We’re very comfortable with him. He’s younger, fitter, etc.

A few months ago, we got together and they had sex for the first time. I was excited but anxious about what that experience would be like. Her first time with someone other than me in 20 years. I wanted it to be great…but not too great. 😆 Kinda kidding, but you know. It was a really good experience. She rode him and came quickly. They made out for a long time and then he fucked her again briefly as they were finishing up. It was really great sex for her, but it wasn’t anything out of the ordinary…which actually was a bit of a relief for me on that first time. They probably only had intercourse a total of 2 minutes during a 45 minute encounter.

So we meet up with him again a week or so ago. I was again present, watching from the next room. This time….😳

…she got her brains fucked out. They basically fucked non-stop for 30-40 minutes. Every position…hard, soft, everything in between. I thought I was totally prepared but it was a jolt to the system and kinda shook me in the moment. It was a huge turn-on, but still…

In the aftermath, I realized it felt a little “threatening” because we never have sex like that. We have sex more like the first time they were together. This was foreign to me…seeing my wife go that long in those positions.

Anyway, we talked through it and everything is great. No regrets…I just wasn’t expecting the emotions I felt in the moment. But that’s ok. There will be little bumps and you just have to communicate with honesty and be willing to handle it together as a couple.

But man…the video from that night. 🥵😊