So, the lady and I recently had someone from Reddit come over for an MFM (not our first time either) and had a good time. Every time we post, it never fails that our inbox gets loaded with messages. So, because I'm personally tired of dealing with some of the low-effort replies, I'm going to give some pointers.

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1. Don't use one-liners, single-word DM's, etc.
2. Pay attention to what they post in their original message. If they say to DM them then do it...don't comment and tell them to...they won't. Single men are a dime a dozen, and low-effort laziness is noticed.
3. Be willing to verify. This WILL mean a face photo. If you can't show your face in a message then another guy will. Just like real life sexcapades, the meek shall not inherit the sexy time.
4. Be respectful, even if they are into BDSM. Saying they are into it doesn't mean you start off being a degrading prick. You EARN the ability to do those things, regardless of what porn has taught you.
5. Use regular language (don't type in just emoji's and internet slang). People that are *truly* in the lifestyle tend to be of above average IQ's, and lazy typing can be a turn off.
6. Don't just brag about your sex game. I promise you they have heard it all before and been let down by those that bragged before you. You will not impress them.
7. Watch a video on what a fuck-boy is. Avoid being anything that might put you in that realm. We see through it.
8. Remember that you will be one of dozens (we received over 137 messages last night alone). You need to stand out.
9. Understand that they will receive a ton of messages and may miss yours. It happens. I know we accidentally missed some and even had some come in once our company had arrived.
10. Don't lie about size. We will send you away. We don't care if you drove over an hour to get here. We don't do pity-fucks. You want pity? Go talk to your relatives.

This may sound rough, but after a combined 400 messages it has become blindingly apparent that someone has to put it out there.

HONORABLE MENTION: Swingers are not your average bar/club hookups. This is two people, who have made a decision in their relationship, to participate in this activity (each couple is different). Abide by their style, learn what the styles are, and accept that you are not committing to a random hookup with a single woman/man. I promise you that the couples can tell who the single guys are just looking for sex compared to the single men who are truly active, and into, the lifestyle.

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I shall now step down from my soap box. Good luck to all, be safe and have fun!