In all the years my partner and I have been going to Trap we've NEVER had an experience like last night. We're extremely wary about all Trapeze employees going forward, and you should be too.

We arrived early for Couples Only night and later met a single girl named Bethany (not her real name) by herself at the bar. It was a brief introduction before we returned to the dance floor. Later my partner went back to chat with her and saw she was being harassed by a single middle aged black man named John (real name) sitting next to her. He was being incredibly rude, my partner picked up on it and asked if she wanted to get away from him. She joined us and told us the full story.

Bethany is new to the lifestyle and it was her FIRST night attending Trapeze or any club. When she arrived the doorman saw she was alone and asked if she wanted company, implying that she needed a partner for couples night (even though single ladies are welcome). Not realizing what this meant Bethany said yes. The doorman signaled John who had been waiting in his car outside the club.

John and the doorman pressured Bethany into entering as a couple with John offering to pay her entry fee. She accepted based on his reassurance that she didn't need to play with him and would get in for free. John showed her around the club and gave her a tour of Diamond. He even had her stow her things in a Diamond locker to herself.

Then he started acting entitled, sitting next to her at the bar telling her things like "these couples don't like you", "you've got no game", etc. Just being an asshole. Other couples approached Bethany and he would throw a fit when people didn't greet him, even though they were not a couple.

Shortly after Bethany joined us John stormed up and demanded she "get her shit out of the Diamond Club locker". My partner went with her to keep an eye on the situation and wait at the Diamond front desk. John nearly stiff armed her as she followed Bethany yelling "what the fuck do you think you're doing, you're not VIP". My partner told John to fuck off and pushed through anyways. This interaction almost became physical.

The two of them reported the bad behavior to the Diamond front desk, and the woman there waved them off and said she would talk to John. He made a show of demanding Bethany be taken off his Diamond membership for the night.

Later as my partner, Bethany and I were leaving the club, we confronted the doorman and told him what happened. The doorman immediately victim blamed Bethany and said "that's all your fault, you made your own decision". The Diamond front desk attendant nearby made excuses saying "that's just John".

This was insane to witness. Bethany could've easily been taken advantage of or hurt by this asshole who is clearly friends with employees who help him get in. Single men DO NOT BELONG on couples night, and Trapeze is helping them enter by pairing them with inexperienced single females who feel pressured to comply.

The rest of our night was enjoyable, but it makes us furious Bethany's first experience was so bad (and could have easily been worse if my partner hadn't intervened). We doubt there will be any punishment for John.

Be vigilant.