Are you having trouble making a connection?

Well we are too, but let me give you some details and maybe through knowledge change can happen and everyone can get laid AND be happy.

My wife and I have a free evening today and I’ve posted several times for the last week hoping to meet a single male or couple in Athens on “the most popular bar night of the year.” We are a 47M and a 38F. We don’t post pics but say in the post we will share once we know someone is 1. From our area and 2. Fit or HWP.

(Side note: my wife is a petite and very fit Asian woman and putting pics up in the initial post usually results in this huge glut of seedy single men so we’ve opted to hold on pic posts but show them in DMs. Otherwise I would be spending all my days weeding through a lot of nonsense).

So, even without the pic I do get inquiring single men. Yet, not a single couple. Here’s how those responses turned out: 22 total single men 10 unsolicited immediate dick picks. 10 Definitely overweight 5 Dad bods that claim they are very fit 10 that aren’t anywhere near Athens (though the post expressly asked for that) 5 men that demand a pic before they send one 8 men that demand “discretion.” Which we all know is code for “cheating.” 7 actually engage in conversation and seem like decent fellas. 5 drop out mid conversation and ghost. 2 delete the conversation completely.

I might have a unique perspective as my wife HATES trying to find decent folks online and leaves it to me to filter legit guys for her. It’s actually my pleasure as I get off completely watching her enjoy herself. I have also been a solo bull for couples and have experience this life from that perspective as well. Here’s what I’ve found:

It doesn’t matter if you’re a couple or a single male. Once in DMs people do not treat each other with any kind of respect. First, there’s a blatant disregard for any asks in the original post. But what is more maddening is, once you’re in conversation, communication is sketchy and it’s just about getting that cock into a pussy, period. And if it doesn’t happen right away? Ghost.

Fellas, I’m not gonna generalize to all women, but this is NOT how my wife operates. She needs to know and trust you’re a decent man who is safe and sexy. And so many of you are sexy in her eyes. But here’s where you’re going wrong. Be a good communicator! Set aside time to chat and if you can’t right now schedule a time. Listen to her likes and don’t respond if you’re not that. If you don’t like what you see or hear, let us know you’re not interested. Even though it’s uncomfortable we still extend the same respect.

We know everyone experiences so many flakes on this site and in this LS. And I’ve seen the same people who complain about this fact actually become the very thing they hate. It’s like that old saying “Character is what you do when no one is watching.” In the anonymity of Reddit it is essentially like “no one is watching” and we are seeing so many hot people allow some really hot times to fail because of a lack of basic communication and respect.

It’s Wednesday now, and we’re still trying to make permanent plans for tonight but still not sure it’s happening. If you’ve read this entire rant and you’re still interested, give us a DM. But better yet, treat people here with the same respect you would meeting face to face. Too much to ask?

All that said, we also understand we’re not perfect communicators and have let these standards slip when we weren’t paying attention. But man, could you imagine the increase of good times that could happen if we could extend each other this basic respect?

TLDR: stag husband miffed about the lack of respectful communication among the the LS folks on Reddit.