A little bit of personal background: I’ve been in the ENM dating world for 3ish years now. I have an amazing partner who I’ve been seeing, and we’ve done the ENM thing together. I had hoped I’d find an additional person who really values me for who I am/also I have a spark with. I’m a person who’s at my best when I’m supporting others, and because of that, I think ENM is truly the best type of relationship for me.

The issue is that it seems like inevitably, after 1-2 months of seeing someone, there’s a Thanos snap. And suddenly, what used to be a fun, easy and easygoing connection suddenly becomes totally one sided. Where I have to work my butt off to get a fraction of the internet I used to get. Has anyone else dealt with this before?

(I’m in therapy trying to figure this out. Nothing I’ve done yet has broken the cycle I described above)