We are new to the ENM, it all started with my wife’s ex. So far, it’s an on and off thing depending on our schedule and what not. We are both asian, and relatively progressive in our outlooks. We support LGBQT , and speak out against inequalities. My wife is huge on inclusiveness and have done her parts to make things better in her professional life.
The sticking point is, I dont want her to date black or brown guys. I am not sure why, and she think that’s just racist and it’s against her value. However, statistically speaking, I can also call her racist because 4 out of the 5 guys she dated was white. She even mentioned she had a preference for white guys. Not because she likes them better physically, but they tend to be more straightforward and down straight to business.
Anyway, just wondering if you guys have set any limit on ethnicity, and if so why or why not.
This is 100% racist OP.
Like, come on.
This is why we had in our profiles "anyone who uses the term BBC in our profile will be blocked".
I have literal trauma from being a dumb HS kid and getting verbally/physically assaulted because their parents couldn't believe their good daughter would dare date a black guy.
Stuff like this just brings it all back.
It's not a coincidence that the people who have hangs up on this it's always about black men specifically.
It's a racist origin that black men are somehow lesser/sub human /animistic and you can't pet your partner "devalue" herself by sleeping with them.
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...dude the idea that all black dudes are hung like a horse is RACIST.
There are plenty of black dudes with tiny dicks.
There are plenty of white and Asian men who are hung.
I think you need to reflect on why this is wrong, and honestly maybe take a break from ENM until you can engage with it in a way that isn't propagating these racist beliefs.