Hi folks

I’ve recently ended my marriage after being separated for about a year and a half. In my time of separation, I would meet people off feeld for dates and hookups, usually only dating people the were in open relationships or ethically non monog. I’d met some great people but as they all had primary partners, I never developed strong feelings for any of them.

Recently, I’ve met the woman of my dreams on the app, someone I’ve crossed paths with over the years and as it turns out, had been interested in me. She was also fresh out of a marriage (only about 2 months) and was on the app for hookups, 3 ways and the like.

We weren’t planning on it but we’ve both fallen madly in love with the other. She is currently dating 2 other women but has stopped seeing men and currently has no interest in them besides me. I currently have no desire to date anyone else cause I’m crazy about this woman. We’ve talked about boundaries and what ENM will look like for us going forward. The communication has been good. I have said that it’s fine for her to continue seeing those women as I’ve had a year and a half of fun and I think it’s important for her to have these experiences after being in a marriage for so long.

I find that I can live with this arrangement currently but I am feeling a bit of jealousy and I’m not sure how I will navigate this when she wants to date other men. That doesn’t seem like it’ll be in the horizon any time soon but I don’t want to promise that I’ll be ok with it if I’m not sure I will be. Currently the thought of her with other men makes me queasy. I have said I’d be cool with trying mfm and mff threesomes in the future but there’s no timeline on that.

Does anyone have any experience similar to this? Are there essential resources I should be checking out? I was in a sexless marriage for so long so I am open to open things up down the road and I think that can be healthy and good but I want to to do it right and not ignore my feelings. Logically it all makes sense but it feels different being enm when you really love your primary partner

Thanks for reading my rant hahaha