Alright, so, I matched with a female on Hinge and she was upfront with the fact she and her husband are ENM. This is my first foray into this world so I need some help:

• I got tested today via quest for the expanded set. I’m assuming it’s okay to ask for her and her husband’s stuff?

• I want our first meetup to be a chat and maybe kissing. Kind of a, “let’s get to know one another and set some boundaries and expectations.” Is that okay or a turn-off?

• Do I ask to meet the husband? How do I know she isn’t lying about ENM and cheating on her husband?

• I’m okay with the ENM part, and she wants this to be an on-going thing. We live in a tiny town. Are there techniques for discreetness? I can host, but do most of you use hotels?

These are legit questions, I’m excited, but also a bit nervous about the situation! Help would be greatly appreciated.