We have been "theoretically ENM" for 2 months now but nothing has happened. We are in our mid 40s. We almost found a Unicorn in her 30s in person but her boyfriend got cold feet. Then, online we almost found a Unicorn who was 21 but we got cold feet because it felt perverted due to her age. We decided that's just too young and weird. ("we" as in "me" as my husband has no problem with even an 18 year old.. but for me that's too young).

We want a Unicorn FFM or solo. I've been on Feeld for 2 months but can't seem to find a couple or man that is my type. My husband rarely gets any hearts despite being very good looking. Apparently there isn't much demand for married men in general.

We are very picky but also very eager. Should we lower our standards a little?