Hey all!

So a bit of relevant background. I’m on my own for the first time in over 20 years, giving me an opportunity to finally find my own way through life and love and while scary, I’m incredibly excited!

I’m finding that I’m just not built for a monogamous relationship, and I’m finally accepting that that’s actually okay and I should be allowed to be happy without having to wholly compromise who I am, and that’s rad! I want to carry that energy with me right out of the gate and find people who are MY people! But there’s already a snag 🤣

My roommate, who sleeps in his own bed upstairs, has feelings for me, and they’re definitely mutual. He’s not interested in being in an ENM relationship and I’m not expecting him to change, he can set his own boundaries. However, knowing what he knows about me (basically everything) he still wants to make a go of it, knowing that there may be other people in my future.

He’s such a good man, and so compatible with me communicatively and emotionally that I’d be crazy not to try and have a relationship with him, but I want to make sure I’m going about it in a way that respects his boundaries without compromising my convictions.

I don’t expect it to be completely without difficulties, but is this something that can actually work? If so, I’d love some advice 🥰