So me and my partner have had an ENM relationship for three years now.

So the interesting and annoying thing is we look for different things from our secondary relationships. So from her perspective it is hard because she wants a genuine connection, the chase, a spontaneous build up. All she seems to get are guys just looking for hookups. When she wants D she has no problem finding it but she normally wants more. So she struggles.

We are both Bi. Ideally I would like to find a consistent long term hookup that I can trust but that is not reality. So I have to put them through the ringer to see who is safe to meet up with. Sometimes I think to myself "If I had those features my partner has I would probably get more D on a regular basis" then I get annoyed that she complains about not finding someone that wants to hang out before they take it to the bedroom. Then the jealousy kicks inn lol