My wife and I opened our marriage purely out of love, we met young never held each other back but wanting to live life to the fullest. Started as a couple threesomes and we recently jumped into ENM. She found a regular guy she has been sleeping with who seems real nice. I on the other hand have not been able to find a partner and also was not a big priority of mine.

Although I'm happy to have a solid foundation to our relationship to explore in this way, I can't help but have a huge cloud weighting over my head. At first it was the sex but now I feel like everything from seeing her text to flirt just carries a weight where previously I would encourage it and love to see her this way.

I am not willing to stop it yet, partnership is 50/50 and want to give it my best shot but struggling with the uncomfortable feelings. We have great communication, rules are respected, etc.

Any suggestions on how to handle and work with the uncomfortablilty?