I've known this partner for a little over a year. We officially started dating roughly 3 months ago, but have both been practicing KTP for the time I've known her.

I've met and really like both of her other partners on a personal/friend level, but lately I've been noticing some toxic behaviours in both relationships. I am not someone to voice unsolicited opinions, and I trust in her ability to navigate her own relationships and pursue connections that she finds mutually fulfilling.

That said, lately she has made some comments that confirm some of the suspicions I've held about her relationships, and I'm not really sure how to appropriately respond. I ask her clarifying questions in the moment with the intent to help her unpack and come to her own conclusions, and have otherwise asked her to let me know if she wants my thoughts/advice or else I can just listen.

It's just....really hard to see her working through these things, especially in one of the relationships with a partner who is fairly new to poly and which also reminds me in many ways of a toxic relationship that I was in for way too long.

I'm not really sure what advice I'm looking for, but I don't have many people I can talk to about this IRL, so I appreciate any and all of it. TIA 😊