So I 33f and my gf 28f have been open for 4 of our 6 years together. We have people we've seen short term, people we used to be fwb with that are now close friends we still fool around with and I have an ongoing long distant thing that isn't a steady relationship but we are close and when near eachother fool around sometimes. The ongoing sexual relationships we have are with people who have careers and things in life going on and sometimes we only see eachother once a month, sometimes we go on a kick of a couple weekends in a row so thats what im used to. My life is pretty busy with work, family and hobbies so I don't always have the most time. When I'm short on it I like to get back around and prioritize quality time with my gf.

I am pretty honest about this. I feel like my relationship with my close fwbs is borderline poly at times because we have an established friendship that's been going for years. When I meet new people I say that I'm open to purly sexual interactions if we are compatible that way or a longer running friendship with a sexual component. I wouldn't say I am straight up poly though because I don't always have time for more than 1 serious relationship. My work is kind of seasonal and sometimes I will work for a month straight to help compensate for slower business in the winter months.

I am seeing someone (30f) recently who has only ever been in monogamous relationships and it was going pretty good for the most part. She had asked if actually being poly was something I was open to. I said yes but it would honestly probably be years down the road when things settled down with work a little more and it would have to be someone my gf liked enough (it doesn't have to be sexual but liked as a friend she'd want around all the time like that). At this point in my life I am not seeking a straight up poly thing, but dating and even being pretty close was on the table with the consideration that summers can be a little wild and I might not be very available.

Skip to now, I got sick and I'm self employed so I was struggling to keep up with my work and take care of myself. I kind of like my space to be gross by myself, maybe around my gf when Im sick. Someone I've been dating for 4 months hanging around while I'm hacking up crap isn't very restful to me. So I needed some space for that and to get caught up on work. Then bam I got hit with a sinus infection. Shit was just hard for like a month between work, my ac dying, being sick and some family drama.

She wanted to hang out on a day off I had and I said I needed to make some time with my gf. Now she is telling me her feelings are hurt, that she had a dream we would all live together someday and that she didn't see us as casually dating because we had been seeing eachother for 5 months.

I've known people who are dating for years and only see eachother once a week and don't plan on living together and all sorts of relationships. I had explained about my summers, this bad stretch I'm on and that a full blown relationship was a little out of my ability to provide currently. Is seeing someone for 5 months casually in this manner a more serious relationship at this point? I don't honestly think it's been that long. I feel like even if it is I had said where I was at and what this looked like for me. Idk. I hate to feel like I lead her on or that I'm being a dick. Maybe this just isn't for her.

Can I get a little feedback on how others see this or would deal with it?