So my (27M) boyfriend (39M) was going to come over last night, but instead he wanted to hook up with someone.

He asked me if I wanted to join, but I didn’t think the guy was cute. I told him he could play solo. I asked him if he was going to come over still and he said maybe. Conversation went on and I asked again, “are you coming over,” and he said no probably not.

Once he said that, I told him I’d be disappointed if he didn’t come over. I told him I felt like I wasn’t being chosen and it was irritating me. I was trying to accommodate both our needs by letting him play alone and me still getting to see him because we made plans to see each other.

He’s telling me I handled things poorly because I didn’t know what I wanted and was being wishy washy and not straight up. But I was under the impression he was coming over until he said he was not. After he stated he wouldn’t come, that’s when I got upset.

Now we’re fighting yay.