I am in a newly (the past 3 months) open relationship, we’ve been together for 3y and in that time been mostly monogamous (dated people together but not separately). When I met my partner he was not very sexually experienced and to get him to be open to kinks was something we have worked to. I like to be submissive sexually and to be his good girl and he now loves this also. This kink feels like it goes deeper for me and the thought of him calling someone else his good/little girl feels awful. Because of this I have said I don’t want him to have that sex dynamic with other people. He said of course, he wouldn’t call someone else his good/little girl or be in that space with someone else. He has been in a situation recently where before even kissing someone he has done things of a good little girl nature (stroked someone’s hair whilst gently choking) and later told them they were good for him. Not specifically saying good girl 🙄 seems a bit obtuse to me.

Anyway I think I am asking for advice about whether this is an ok thing for me to even request. i am part justifying by emphasising the fact he’s never been into it before me and it’s not really a big part of his sexual identity with me. He doesn’t need me to have the same rule with others because it is not important to him. Pls thoughts on sexual rules and be nice to me thank u