For context, my husband (31m) and I (30f) have been together since we were 15 and I have literally NEVER been on a date before.

I didn’t fully realize that I was bisexual until I was 25, and I didn’t start talking about potentially dating women until I was 28. I initially suggested a threesome because it’s something we’ve been fantasizing about since we started dating, and if I was going to have fun new experiences then I wanted him to have some too, but he wants me to be able to explore this part of myself on my own first.

It’s been two years since I’ve gotten permission and I have been too scared to actually start! I think I’m more afraid of the unknown. I don’t know how to talk to somebody on a date, or even how to start a conversation on an app. Will other women even be interested in just hooking up? Do I mention that it’s my first time? I also have some loose skin (basically a mom bod without the kids) from weight loss, at what point do I warn a person about this? Do I bring it up in the talking stage? Who’s house do we go back to?

I have a goal to go on a date by the end of this summer 😅 I’m planning on using Feeld and searching for other ENM women, but I’m also afraid of running across people that I know. Is it frowned upon to use a fake name?

I am so excited but also petrified, is it like that for everybody? How do you get over the fear? Apologies if this is not the correct sub for these questions, but I don’t really know where else to go for support and I am open to suggestions!