My (36m) partner (31f) and I come from religious fundamental backgrounds. We've walked away from that and are excited to test ENM and see if it is for us.

We're emotionally monogamous, but wanting genuine connection and play with other couples.

Here's the issue: we are clear in our online profiles that we are new and looking for the right couple willing to take things slow. We think that is turning a lot of people off.

That's understandable -- "new" couples probably often come with problems, baggage, and drama, and experienced couples probably want no part of that. I get it.

We're just not ready to full swap on the first meet, and we may want to take 2-3 meet-ups to explore the full range of activities, communicating, discussing, continually evaluating boundaries, etc.

My question for the more experienced folks: what kinds of things would you look for in "new" couples that would make you feel better about taking a chance on them?

We have discussed our boundaries endlessly and know exactly how we want to go about this, what we're comfortable with to start, where we eventually that to end up, and everything in between.

I'd love for some advice of how to say as much in a way that will turn off as few people as possible.

Thanks!