Disclaimer: I'm not talking about people who open and close their mono relationship willy nilly without considering who it will effect. I'm talking about people like me, who, when polysaturated at 1 or newly single, decide to pursue monogamy for a while.

Ambiamorous describes people who can be satisfied in both poly and mono arrangements. Much like bisexuals are not all cheaters who just can't ever be satisfied dating one person of one gender, ambiamorous people are not all just playing with nonmono hearts until the right mono person comes along. If you're not ambiamorous and only do polyamory specifically, this post probably isn't for you.

Fellow ambiamorous peeps - what did you take with you the last time you returned to monogamy?

Polyamory didn't single-handedly heal my relationship with myself, but it definitely helped! Eventually, I would've learned to compartmentalize and self soothe, etc but this relationship structure did motivate me to develop those skills a little faster for the sake of my sanity and everyone else's.

Whether you've gone back and forth like me, or you made a permanent return to monogamy after trying polyamory/ENM, what did you take with you? Did the parameters of your monogamy change? Did you find the transition difficult? What came up during the transition that wasn't expected?

Lastly, for those who go back and forth: Will you ever return to non-monogamy? If so, would you open up with a current partner or wait until you're single? I wanna know everything!