Hello all,

I am pretty new to this type of lifestyle and so is my partner. We have been together for a very long time and recently began exploring ENM as a way to satisfy curiosities and spice up our own lives. However, I sometimes struggle with some aspects of it and would like people to talk to who have gone through this and could help me.

Basically, my partner has a much higher sex-drive than me most of the time. Sometimes I will have a few weeks where my drive goes through the roof and then I'll go back down to my more regular drive. My partner is always on high and we've learned to manage that in out couple.

Recently, we tried opening up to relationships online only. I have a new friend and so does my partner but we haven't done much yet. That being said, I struggle with not thinking that my partner might find better or at least more sexually compatible and that they might replace me. I know it's insecurities, lack of confidence, etc. And they are constantly reassuring me that it is not, and will not, be the case because our partnership is very strong. But I can't shake off the feeling.

Anyone have any guidance? Thanks in advance!