Me (AMAB enby 34) and my partner (F44) have been together about 10 years and recently decided to open things up sexually. We started with a threesome and it couldn't have gone better. After months of discussion, we feel ready to fully lean into the ENM lifestyle.

In the meantime, my partner in particular is VERY interested in finding a play/sex party in our area (Chicago). However, we're super particular about finding a queer-friendly place. We're both bi or pan, but I'm kind of sissy/CD in my presentation and my partner is only interested in hooking up with other femmes for now. We just want a place where we can feel safe and find what we're looking for. When I look on Fetlife, all the events seem catered to swingers, which is great, but not necessarily what we're looking for. Any advice for how to find a queer-friendly play/sex party?