Hey yall! 32m here married to 33f. She has a new partner and they seem to be doing very well. I met her partner and they are great. I’m feeling very happy for them. It’s their first relationships of this type so a lot of new emotions that we discuss along the way.

I guess what Im having a hard time with though is more personal. As I’m looking for people to meet and get along with it heavily highlights parts of my relationship with my wife that hurt me. I’m feeling disconnected with her lately, I’m sure partially out of jealousy, but high I’m honestly easily working through. But other parts remind me of time in our relationship when I’m doing a lot of giving and support, but when I really need it I don’t feel the support or giving. And that is triggering when I hear about the things she is willing to do for her new partner.

Am seeing this from a skewed perspective? I want to talk more with her about it obviously but the fear of pushing her away or scaring her towards an easier space when she’s got her new partner to get away to scares me. And I know that just my anxious mind getting the best of me!

I’m feeling neglected in portions of our marriage and I know it needs to be discussed but I’m wondering if others thought their relationship was much better before ENM, only to find lots of work once they got here. Open to hearing folks thoughts on their own scenarios.