For the past eight months, my husband and I have been exploring the ENM lifestyle. Our marriage counselor suggested this relationship structure because my husband came out as bi and was looking to explore his sexuality.

We had a brief stint in swinging but realized it wasn’t for us. We had a couple of threesomes which were good experiences. Now, we are in the playing solo phase but we agreed to keep things casual.

About two months ago, I met someone who I click with really well. He and I really like each other and it’s not even about sex at this point. He says he’s happy to spend time with me although I am sure we will fool around again if the opportunity presents itself. Now, my husband wants us to go back to monogamy because he can’t handle how things are going with my relationship.

On my husband’s side, he has casual hookups with men occasionally and had one brief relationship.

The thing is, I really don’t want to end the relationship I am in because I am really enjoying it. My FWB and I get together every 2 weeks or so and chat a lot. I feel like he and I are in a similar situation in our marriage and we just enjoy each other so much.

Now, at this point, my husband is not consenting to my relationship. He checks my texts and asks me questions. I show him everything. He even has my FWB’s number and chatted with him once.

I realize this is now cheating. Should I fight for this relationship or end it out of respect for my husband and my family? My husband now wants to separate. He said that if I broke of the relationship with my FWB, he would call off the separation.